We’ve been conditioned to believe that being severe on ourselves is the only way to succeed in life, and that a competitive, unforgiving mindset is most likely what we’ll need to get there. Giving oneself credit, on the other hand, actually restores faith, self-compassion, and self-love, all of which will propel you to greater achievements. Because we tend to feel that our failures are a part of our lives, being overly hard on ourselves usually leads to anxiety and inaction. Giving yourself credit and exercising compassion, on the other hand, according to the research, would only strengthen your motivation to make improvements in your life and assist you in taking remedial action to attain your objectives.
Acknowledging our efforts and giving ourselves credit does not free us of responsibility for our mistakes and failings. It all comes down to letting go of the past, focusing on the positive, and cultivating a strong sense of self-confidence.
Giving up the false version of your life and learning to accept yourself, your life, and your truth are two of the best things you can do for yourself. Even if your situation is dire, accepting it for what it is is the first step toward improving it.
Here are some strategies for dealing with reality—especially the aspects you don’t like—and how to transform it into the reality you want.
- Appreciate what you have- It’s fine to be content with your current situation. Not appreciating yourself might lead to a never-ending pursuit of goals. Perhaps you compare yourself to others and attempt to “catch up,” or perhaps you believe you are “supposed” to want particular things. Whatever the case may be, failing to appreciate what you currently have is not being true to yourself.
Make a list of the aspects of your life that you are proud of and that provide you joy. Keep these things close to your heart and don’t waste time with them.
Examine your work, dating, and other life goals once more. What type of life do you truly desire?
2. Accept responsibility for your errors- Remember that you won’t be able to remedy anything until you acknowledge that there is a problem. Try to see your mistakes as opportunities to learn rather than failures, and have the courage to recognise that you are in charge of your reality and the only one who can change it. Decide what’s most important to you and make it a priority.
3. Take responsibility for your results- Work to own all aspect of your reality, not just the areas that need improvement, but also your strengths and accomplishments. Taking responsibility for all of your results can educate you how to do better next time and to view failure as a teaching opportunity.
4.Be true to yourself- Instead of expressing who you “should” be, express who you are. Do you ever feel compelled to suppress your true feelings and personality in order to make others happy? Reconnect with your core principles to help you overcome self-doubt.Trust your gut instincts about what scene is good for you, who you should hang out with, and what career path to choose. You are the one who best understands yourself and how to make the most of what you have to give the world.
5. Don’t let fear get in the way of your success- Don’t let your anxieties—especially your fears about what others think of you—get in the way of your success. You must be willing to do things your way, as you see fit, and to consider any comments you receive.
6. Find activities that keep you focused in the present tense- Even when we have spare time, many of us waste it on things that don’t allow us to fully recharge. Self-care that works raises your awareness of how you’re feeling and keeps you focused on it. Whether you’re into yoga or video games, anything you do should make you feel good, whether it’s serenity, wonder, or excitement.
7. Accept the fact that hardship will always be a part of your life.
Don’t be afraid of difficulties; instead, dive right in and get to know how to operate and live in them. Struggles are an inevitable part of life, and we must learn to deal with them. And you never know, the most difficult tasks may carry the greatest potential for achievement.
8. Make a strategy to achieve your objective- Include the measures you’ll take to bring a new reality into existence. Break your objective down into manageable chunks that you can do one at a time to boost your self-esteem and confidence. Once you have a strategy with clear goals, your new reality can begin to take shape.
Remember that if you are unwilling to let go of the wrong reality, you will never be able to create the proper one.